Yes, you’ve read it right the first time. In less than 12 hours, I’m going to be 29 years old. I cannot seem to fathom what that exactly means, I always thought I’ll be Forever 21 (teehee!). Of course, such assumption is ridiculous when I have friends and family who enjoy reminding me of that one day when I
again turn a year older. I guess the truth shall always prevail huh? 😀
So now that I’m becoming a year older, I’m mainly doing this post because of reasons. To tell myself what has changed? What do I know now that I didn’t know before? Was I happier now? Did I become the person I wanted to be? What do I want to do now? What SHOULD I do now? And why am I suddenly getting flashbacks?
But seriously, I just wanted to write my thoughts. Here are a few
personal lessons life has thought me for the past 28 years.
- Love yourself and accept who you are. As a kid, I grew up having zero confidence, mainly because I’ve been made fun of for having dark skin. In a country where a lighter complexion is deemed more beautiful, it’s pretty sad growing up in that kind of environment, especially when you’re trying hard to fit in. Somehow, I consider myself lucky for getting past that period, and finally emerging with self-assured knowledge that I am beautiful (cue Christina Aguilera song)
despite still living in a world where people think lighter skin is more beautiful😀
- The quantity of so-called friends doesn’t matter, it’s the REAL ones that really count. It’s good to meet new people and gain new friends, but it’s always wise to know who is worth keeping. Not all you consider friends are friends who care.
- Having a different opinion than the majority is okay. It doesn’t make you a moron just because you’re the only one who thinks differently.
- Putting too much stock in one’s physical appearance is ugly. Knowing your beautiful and showing it with grace is enough. But being self-absorbed with your so-called beauty makes you unattractive.
- Ask, and you shall receive. Well, it doesn’t always work, but if you want something, why not ask first? It works for me 90% of the time. 😀
- Envy is a deadly sin for a reason. An envious person can never feel happiness and contentment.
- Define Love: Love is beautiful, but it HURTS. If it doesn’t hurt, then it’s not love. Only a person you love has the power to hurt you more than you can imagine. And as a person being loved, you also can hurt the people who love you. Such is the tragedy of love. I’m melodramatic again.
- You can’t always get what you want, but you can still try. 😀
- Travel. It’s a big world out there, see it!
- Lessen the complaints and be thankful for what you have. Not everyone is as lucky as you are. Something I have to continually remind myself whenever I think life is being unfair to me.
- Golden Rule: “Don’t do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you.” I try to live by this golden rule for as long as I can remember. I’m not perfect, so I forget sometimes, but I do my best.
- Just because everybody’s doing it, doesn’t mean you should. No one is obligated to do something that everybody else is doing. Because when you think about it, most of the time, what everybody else is doing is just wrong.
- YOLO: ‘You Only Live Once.’ This statement is not used with care. It doesn’t imply that you have to party hard, be immature, be irresponsible or
in worst casesself-destructive. What it meant is for a person to enjoy life in a way that is both meaningful and wonderful. Inspire and be inspired!
- User-friendly people are everywhere. Feel free to be used at your own risk.
- We still live in a society with an archaic mindset. Some beliefs are hard to change, and not everyone is open-minded. Actually, open-mindedness is not as open as you thought it to be.
- You can NEVER please everybody. So don’t always try.
- It’s not easy to remain happy. A current realization while doing the 100 Happy Days challenge. Happiness is fleeting. It comes and goes. You can be happy today and find yourself miserable tomorrow. To remain happy is warfare.
- Age is really just a number. When you’re around people with different age groups, you’ll know. 😀
- Be humble. All the great ones are.
- Take risks once in a while. I’m no risk-taker, but in the few times I did take that risk, I gained a certain maturity and strength in life after. I consider myself blessed.
TIME CHECK: 7 hours more to go… 😀